Focuses on the only party in a conflict that we have any control over: ourselves Conflict is an interactive process - you cannot look at a person who makes life difficult for you without also looking at yourself. While blaming others may lead to short-term relief, it often escalates conflicts and produces long-term damage. And with conflict we must first understand the problem and then take responsibility by changing our own roles. Beyond Blame presents specific advice on conflicts in love, conflicts at work, and what to do when conflicts cannot be resolved.
Table of Contents
Introduction: A Personal Journey Through Conflict. Identifying What Sets You Off. Exploring the Origins and Causes of Your Conflicts. Allowing Yourself the Discomfort. Taking Responsibility Without Blaming. Committing Yourself to Act Differently. Experimenting with Alternative Strategies. The Positive Functions of Conflict. Conflicts in Love. Conflicts at Work. When Conflicts Can't Be Resolved.
JEFFREY A. KOTTLER is professor of counseling and educational psychology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Kottler is an internationally recognized authority in the area of human relationships, and the author of thirteen books, including the highly acclaimed On Being a Therapist (1993), Compassionate Therapy (1992), and The Compleat Therapist (1991), all from Jossey--Bass.