My reasons for writing this book are rather complex because I have seen no other books on the shelves that were comprehensive enough to interest the straight population as well. This book is as much for them as it is for gay people because it I believe it provides important information for them to help them understand us better and why many gay men may behave the way they do. Gay culture to the straight culture as always seemed mysterious as if we were hiding something. Perhaps we have been, so I hope this book helps them understand better the gay culture and hopefully it may help them better understand how certain behaviors may have developed and a bit of a history lesson on how gay culture originally came to be. My greatest hope is that this book will cause the much need discussion about why many of us behave the way we do. My thoughts are that the high school girly behaviors are the manifestations of unhealed wound, that I refer to as ghost wounds, that are a direct result of the damage that has been done during the very critical school age years when many of us were trying to find out who were and develop some self esteem.Unfortunately for most gay men that I have spoken to had very lonely childhoods, where they felt isolated, picked on at school, and they most often felt like outsiders.
I believe these experiences have done more damage to gay people than we have ever given credit to. As a result these ghost wounds have never been healed and follow them around for a lifetime unless addressed and will influence much of your behaviors and most importantly your ability to understand and really feel the beauty and deliciousness of true intimacy whether it be with friends or life partners. Frequent sexual encounters are not intimacy. It's devoid of intimacy and often leads to a deeper feeling of isolation, loneliness and depression. The last of what I want to say is good luck in your que