The Essential Guide to Gay and Lesbian Weddings, Third Edition

It leads couples through topics from the philosophical to the practical, and answers the tough questions such as: Now that you can get legally married, should you? And why bother having a wedding, especially where it’s not yet legal to do so? It also includes: sharing the news with your family; the latest trends in gay engagement rings; how to place same-sex wedding announcements in newspapers; tips on cutting down that enormous guest list; how to navigate tradition and still make your celebration your own; what to carry down the aisle if you don’t feel comfortable carrying a bouquet; and making the Internet your wedding resource.

Author Biography

Tess Ayers has worked in advertising and graphic design, written for game shows, and was a producer on a number of television talk shows. When she and her partner Jane Anderson decided to have a wedding ceremony in 1992, they were unable to find a proper guide for gays and lesbians, and this book was conceived and born two years later. In the years since then Tess has been busy raising their son, now 17, and works on the boards of several not-for-profit organizations. Tess, Jane and Raphael happily divide their time between Los Angeles and Marin County.
Paul Brown worked in theater (where he treasured every moment), a bit in television (not so much), and had a stint in “celebrity journalism” (seemed like a good idea at the time). For more than fifteen years he taught Special Education in Los Angeles. He met Tess Ayers several months before her wedding over three decades ago (then called a “commitment ceremony”). When the honeymoon was over, they collaborated on the first version of The Essential Guide to Gay and Lesbian Weddings. Paul was never married himself, but he knew how to plan a wedding. He died in 2021.