What, in your relationships, have you chosen? What would you choose, if you felt able? In Love and Choice, therapist and journalist Lucy Fry explains why relationship should start with these simple questions. Most of us are brought up with a blueprint - an outline or even a plan - for our most important and intimate relationships. It comes from parents, grandparents, teachers, the media, books, television, or even the government's tax policies, but even today the message we receive is simple: The (gold) standard for a romantic relationship is one that is heterosexual, between two people, and monogamous. Lucy invites us to examine this blueprint consciously, accept that it may not be for everyone, and consider something outside the ordinary. By offering us a window into a connection built on choice, and a radical approach, Lucy helps us explore what we really want, and what our relationship needs. With care, wit and candour, Fry blends insightful psychological and philosophical ideas with case studies drawn from interviews with experts, real people, and experiences in her own life. Love and Choice gives readers everything they need to choose what, who, and how to love.